How many people have met their soul mate when they were sitting at the bar getting wasted? Im guessing their are a few outliers, but the majority of us have not. Look at who you have actually dated in the past 5 years. How many of those people did you meet at a bar?

A bar is the hardest place to even meet people! Everyone is sitting in their own corner laughing joking, all around good time. How often does some random person come up to that group ” Hey everyone im (random creeper) hows it going?” This is not happening all over the place, but when it does that person is just that, random creeper.

Write down 10 things you really enjoy, or have interest in. Now go out and find those tribes of people and start interacting. Volunteer to help out, apply for a job as a the lowest man on the totem pole to just learn the craft. I love cooking, i should apply to be a cook in a  restaurant. I have no experience but they might be desperate or you cant screw up how they make it. I may meet a woman who also enjoys cooking or i might find something else i enjoy doing.

Whatever it is, go do it. Stop being stale, start living. Make time for things you want to do. Do it with friend. Do it by yourself. Just make something happen.

This advice can also be applied to finding what you want to do with life.