“She wears her heart on her sleeve”

Everyone has that friend, or co-worker that wears their heart on their sleeve. It doesn’t matter how close you are with that person, they are going to tell you their life story and even deeper, their life struggles. How do you deal with this kind of person? The ones who are so easy to open up and tell you their problems, whether or not you care. I have a few people in my life that are like this.

Most of them have negative personalities, willing to flood the room with emotional heartache they have suffered over the years. Is it attention they want? Is it sympathy? I don’t understand it. Well, i do understand it, but its mind-boggling. (where you mind is in a boggle).

If something traumatic has happened to you, what makes you want to tell everyone? I see people telling these stories as if to justify their attitude towards life, or personality, or w/e else. My advice: Wear short sleeves. Nobody wants to hear your life story in the first 5 min. of conversation. Learn to connect to people first, and then if you feel your relationship is more than small talk, its okay to then let your guard down.

I can actually remember when this has happened to me from a complete stranger. I’m sitting at The Red Pig with Tracy and Steve. One of Tracy’s friends daughter (we will call her Minnie) is sitting across the bar eating, drinking, having a good time. She eventually works her way over to Tracy Steve, and I. I haven’t known this girl for more than 30 minutes at the most when she starts getting real personal with her conversation. Telling me about family problems. I have no problem having a deep conversation, but when is it appropriate to bare your skeletons? I could have been anybody and she would have confessed her problems. After the night is over and I have heard 2 hours worth of problems, I can honestly say What The Fuck! Why would she do this?

I personally feel that when serious traumatic events happen to someone, they aren’t willing to speak about it to everyone. Like the veterans coming home from Iraq. They aren’t telling everyone how they watched a child die, their friend blown up. Give others a chance to get to know you first before throwing such a heavy backstory on them.

I judge these people from the beginning.Yes, I said it. When i feel you are that weak to confess deep insight to your life so early, i start questioning your self-esteem, stability, emotional strength, friendship, everything. I’m a self described asshole (or realist, your opinion) as you can read from this previous article .

Uhhh i don’t want to use this example but to anyone who watches the Real World (insert gun in mouth….Boom) they have seen one of the current roommates Ashley does this. She will tell her struggles to anyone and everyone. Only problem, everyone gets really annoyed by it. Are you like this in real life? Check yourself before you wreck yourself.

I think John Mayers sleeve is badass. Done in Japan. Real Japanese tattoo artist

Dave….Out